Tell Me Where It Hurts, Baby

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Manila, June 4, 2019 - If any part on the left side of your body hurts, it is your Inner Child’s way of telling you, your Boundaries need some adjustment.  If the right side hurts, you need to do better in regulating your Flow.

Isn’t regulating “how much I give” also Severity?

No, and here’s an easy way to distinguish the two:

• When someone asks something from you, how much you give is Mercy.  Never give too much, always just right lest your Child will make sure you get feedback— the right side of your body will hurt.
• When someone gives you something, whether in a pushy or subtle way, your ability to sense abuse and say “no” without hurting the other person is your Severity at work; otherwise, the left side of your body will hurt.  This is the Child’s way of saying “no” to abuse, no matter how subtle the abuse is.

The middle pillar in the diagram is also known as the Pillar of Grace.  When the two pillars, Mercy and Severity, are balanced and well-regulated, your Child is happy—grace and blessings flow in your life unimpeded. That is why it is said, the Child holds the key to the riches of the world.

HELP, My right elbow is hurting.  A joint, such as an elbow,  could be inflexibility when it comes to Giving-the right side.  It could also represent something connected to the circumstances in your life at the time of the injury.  Think back to what was going on in your life at the time you noticed the pain.  Were you upset you gave too much or upset you were unable to give?  Start from there.

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STRONG BOUNDARIES, GOOD FLOW 

Flow and Boundaries work hand in hand.

When faced with a problem or when helping a friend out, troubleshoot.  Get to the root by identifying if it is a Flow problem, a Boundaries problem, or both.

Flow is at play each time you GIVE, when you FORCE something or yourself on others, or when you can’t give.

Boundaries are at play when you ASK for something, when you’re at the RECEIVING end, when you TAKE more than you should, when you find it difficult to receive. There are people who find it difficult to receive even just a compliment or a cup of coffee.

Let’s take a closer look:

1 - Flow (Masculine in function)
When someone forces you to do something or receive something, the person has a Flow problem. It doesn’t have to be a tangible object. It could be words, as in the case of verbal abuse. Rapists have difficulty with Flow.

Archetype: The Rapist

Your turn.

2 - Boundaries (Feminine in function)
If you don’t like what is being given, raise your Boundaries. Say “NO.” Shut your legs tight or walk away.

But, if you shut your legs too tight or growl at the person, you can lose all your clients and all your suitors. Being too prude is also not good. Balance is key.

Archetype: The Old Librarian

3 - Boundaries (Feminine in function)
If a person ASKS too much, again, he has poor Boundaries. He is no different from women who marry for money and comfort. He keeps taking and taking until the well runs dry.

Archetype: The Prostitute

4 - Flow (Masculine in function)
Now, if you GIVE more than you should, you have poor Flow. This is no different from men who give money in exchange for “love” and parents who spoil their children.

Archetype: The Sugar Daddy

Another kind of FLOW problem is when a person is unable to give, as in the case of a couch-potato dad who watches TV all day and does not go to work. His children will starve.

Archetype: The Couch Potato

Let’s troubleshoot.

Poor FLOW

• Forcing one’s self on others could be a power issue, perhaps the person felt powerless as a child, not in control, overpowered
• Giving too much could be poor self-worth and feeling inadequate, “I might not be enough”

Poor BOUNDARIES

• The inability to say “NO”
• Wanting to take and take

Both could stem from a past experience of deprivation, lack, “there isn’t enough.”

THE ANTIDOTE is to be a mature parent and address issues of lack, control, and worth with the Inner Child.

NOTES
• On different levels—personal, corporate, national, global—when Jupiter is retrograde, all sorts of FLOW issues arise; when Saturn is retrograde, all sorts of BOUNDARY issues arise.  The lessons planets in retrograde bring are always life-changing.

• The Sun is the Parent, the Moon is the Inner Child

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I REFUSE TO CONTRIBUTE TO THIS KARMA

The tolerance for Mercy and Severity widens as a person matures and becomes a human being (v. a human becoming).  He can GIVE MORE, TOLERATE MORE without compromising himself.

However and despite the wide tolerance, it is the matured person’s better judgement that compels him to put his foot down, even if he can give more and tolerate slight abuses, like a parent to a child or an older sibling to a younger.

His better judgement is based on “Will my doing so put this person on the right path, or lead him to further pain and self-destruction? I refuse to contribute to this karma.”

The middle pillar is also known as the Pillar of Beneficance, knowing what is good for oneself and others. How we are with our Inner Child sets the pace for how beneficent we are with others.

Poor Mercy and poor Severity to others tells much about a person’s relationship with his Inner Child.

 

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